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The cripplingly cringe-y factor of having to do the "I'm just not that into you" dance is the worst.
Here, nine women share their strategies for how they turn down a date—or just avoid it, depending on the style (and level of cowardice) of each particular lady.
Most people want to find a friend or a life partner, and to meet the dates who may fulfill this desire, many 50-somethings, about 80 percent in fact, do it the old-fashioned way — through friends or family. Dating after 40 or 50 means taking control of your love life, just like you do the rest of your life. Baggage bonding is when an early date shifts into deep conversation about some baggage you have in common. You start comparing your horrific ex-spouses or your crazy awful dates. Men know who and what they want, often better than we do. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a 20-something, right? His manners, his shirt, his smile, the way he talks about his kids. If he walks away from the date having shared too much or hasn’t learned about you, then there won't be a second date.
It means being kind to yourself and the men you meet. I have compiled a list of Dating Do’s and Don’ts exclusively for women like you. These are for the woman who is done repeating the same mistakes, and is ready to find her grown-up love story. It starts off innocently with a question like “So what happened with your marriage? Nothing positive can possibly come from this, sister. Yes, I know he said he was going to call you, I know you had a great date and want to see him again. That’s especially true of the grownup men that you’re dating. Unless you can talk with your dude about safe sex and the status of your relationship after intimacy, steer clear of the sack. Start off with the positive and try to stay in mode before you decide he’s not right for you.
So if you're texting me in the first place, I'm probably going to say yes.
If it's any date other than the first one, I will say no and tell them why, in the way that I'd want to be told—I'm not feeling it going anywhere but thanks for your time, etc.
But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.
On the positive side, the age 50-plus daters seem to be pretty darn smart when choosing a date-mate.
Some 42 percent have better quality dates, and 52 percent say part of the allure of dating in the 50s is the absence of the tick-tock of the biological clock. But every day I coach women like you through situations they wish they didn't get into. Make sure you get to talk about yourself in a meaningful way as well. It will bring out the best in him and insure that you both have the best time possible. I Love You, there is something valuable to learn from every date.
The fling you 'long slow good-bye-d' when you were 24 will still loathe you when you're 35." Rebecca, 34 "One time on a bus a guy asked me for my number, and instead of being honest I gave him a fake one.
Because Murphy's Law is real, the man dialed it in front of me then proceeded to shame me in front of my fellow passengers. That I would always be kind but honest if asked out—usually a, 'No thank you' is enough—and 2. I've pulled the 'family emergency out of town' far too many times, and my real low point was when I told a guy that my sister was in the hospital when she is perfectly healthy.
I'm a huge bitch and that is why I am single."Monica, 28 "I am SPINELESS when it comes to turning down guys.
To the point where, when one guy asked me out on a second date that I was not interested in going on, I typed out a very nice 'You're great, but I don't think we're right for each other' text message to reply with and then proceeded to continually stare at it but not actually send the thing—until finally too much time passed and I had just ghosted on him by default.
Additionally, your formerly blissful nights spent at Dorrian's and Bounce will be forever marred by hauntingly inevitable run-ins with past dumpees.