Interracial dating debate hurt in dating
Last year, the cereal brand Cheerios released a commercial that featured an interracial couple and their biracial daughter.
The racist backlash against seeing a black man with a white woman was so severe that Cheerios had to disable comments on its You Tube account.
The data launched a thousand blog posts and articles, some urging black women to date outside of their race in order to find more mates.
The idea is that the more educated or the more successful black women become, the fewer opportunities they have to date black men, and therefore, they should expand their dating pool.
Back when I co-work Swirling, we created a list of interracial-friendly cities and states, and some of them were not really a surprise–Los Angeles and pretty much all of California, parts of Texas, some fly over states, and swaths of regions on the East Coast and South. So today I thought to myself, So I’m off building the MASTER IR-FRIENDLY LIST of CITIES, COUNTIES, NEIGHBORHOODS and TOWNSHIPS that you can feel free to pursue employment, real estate, and vacation spots and know for certain that no one will throw stones, harass you, or otherwise make you feel miserable.
It’s also an awesome list for the single girls and gents who are contemplating relocation. I’m working with the folks at Interracial to create some sort of info graphic or interactive map because we both just love you guys to pieces. Look at the list and feel free to confirm, deny, vehemently debate, agree, disagree, or add your city, county, state or township along with a reason or two why it’s a good place for us to plant some roots.
Many brands over the last several years have had ads that feature black women with white men, and yet they didn’t cause anywhere near the level of controversy as the Cheerios ads.
Why does seeing a black man with a white woman stir up a hornet’s nest of racism, but not the reverse?
The American public seems more willing to accept (or ignore) seeing a black woman with a white man than a black man with a white woman.
America’s history is rich with fear of black male sexuality, as evidenced in cultural markers such as the silent film Birth of a Nation and the brutal death of Emmett Till, a teenager accused of whistling at a white woman.
However, the interracial pairing of a black woman with a white man doesn’t seem to raise the same kind of alarms.
I had heard the “white men just want black women for sex” thing, but I didn’t know that any appreciable number of black women wouldn’t even give a white guy a chance to show himself honorable.
So many black men just want sex from black women too, but is seems that is not a consideration.